The Saddest Thing I Own

The Saddest Thing I Own

A collection of life's saddest objects, their sad stories, and our reasons for holding onto these sad things.


Ph.D. Acceptance Letter

Posted On Tuesday May 9, 2006 By Elna

I recently got accepted to a very prestigious university in England (I am Canadian) to pursue a Ph.D. I have worked hard and sacrificed a lot to get where I am. I want it more than anything. I was ecstatic when I received my acceptance. Years of hard work have paid off and I would be pursuing my dreams, achieving something no one in my family has. I managed to come from a two room school house in grade one, to one of the finest institutions in the world. Unfortunately, fate has a twisted sense of humour.

Although I was accepted, I was not given any funding. I pursued all means of funding, however received none. Since I can not afford to pay for it myself, I can not go. Therefore, the saddest thing I own is my acceptance letter.

It was my world, it was my future, and now all I have left of everything I have put into getting where I am is a silly letter.

And just when I thought it could not get any worse. I was accepted to another institution, but still with no funding.

I wish school was free.

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Other People's Thoughts

You are accepted thats the first step. Keep pursuing funding, grants and the like check out all sorts of grants not just strictly educational roads of grants either. You never know that acceptance is there and it keeps that door open for you for a while :) You never know when a lil birdie might fly in that door adn drop another letter with a lil check inside.


— Karin    Tuesday May 9, 2006    #


You know, you can ask for deferred admission while you look for work either on the campus you will be attending or pursue residency. Contact your future supervisor and discuss your dilemma: you’d be surprised how flexible schools can be. Don’t give up. You may not get your first pick or you may have to wait for it, but persevere!


— Isabel    Tuesday May 9, 2006    #


Don’t give up! There is always a way to get more money for school, up to and including bank robbery. Hang in there!


— John    Tuesday May 9, 2006    #


You have to go! Where there is a will there is a way! I don’t have advice, but i’m thinking. I’ll get back when I have something Brilliant.


— Amber    Tuesday May 9, 2006    #


Thank you everyone for your support. I have applied like mad to all sorts of funding opportunities, (8 failed attempts and counting) and talked to the admin about deferral. Because I would be an international student, funding is very limited, and I would not be able to work on campus.
Little hope about possible future funding is all I have and I am clinging to it for dear life.


— Elna    Tuesday May 9, 2006    #


I feel your pain. My school (Rose-Hulman Inst. Tech.) is the finest undergraduate engineering college in America. I’m currently a sophomore and working my tail off. I, however, do not have really any money. I’m currently at school almost completely on loans. If you care to see how much that’s ripping me a new one, see for yourself. Be happy you’ve got this far. Be happy you’ve done it for yourself. Never become discouraged because it didn’t work out the way you wanted it to work.


— gareth    Wednesday May 10, 2006    #


I understand. I’m finally at a point where I can just finish my B.A. although my boyfreind hates me and I may have to move with my 15 yr old and get another crummy low self-esteem job for a little over minimum wage. I just want to teach for some financial security not get rich. I’m going to finish this no matter what. You’ve got to keep trying to find funding. My sister did it for her MA and I hope I’m teaching next year. By the way I’m 50 years old and I won’t give up!


— Gloria    Wednesday May 10, 2006    #


Don’t give up… If you’re qualified enough to get accepted to an institution that is so prestigious in England, then I’m sure there are any number of Top-Tier schools here in North America who would pay you to get your PhD with them.


— mojotek    Wednesday May 10, 2006    #


Hang in there! Try the North American school idea as a back-up plan. What about loans—can they offer you any assistance there?
I got thru up to my MS at Purdue-not the campus , but one near me. I wish you well and CONGRATULATIONS!! You did get accepted and that is something to be happy about! It is an acheivement to be proud of!


— Noran    Wednesday May 10, 2006    #


LOANS LOANS LOANS.

If its that important do whatever it takes to make it!

Congrats!


— RJ    Wednesday May 10, 2006    #


As far as I can see, you still have plenty of organizations that you can turn to – both private as well as public/gov.

I think that you should contact a company or organization that is in your field of work, inform them of your predicament and see if they would be willing to have you hired – possibly in the UK. SHoot, if you are going to be in the big leagues, you need to hustle like you’ve never hustled before. go to www.idealist.org, see who’s in the UK that you can contact. Get Rich or Die Trying – not just a title to a movie.

Good luck – sleep when you’re dead!


— Martin O NYC    Wednesday May 10, 2006    #


There are no schools in Canada that teach what I wish to study in the detail that I need for a Ph.D. and I were to go to the U.S. I would still be an international student.

Banks will not give out loans for students that are too ‘risky’ and I am one of them, (unless you are studying Law, medicine or massage therapy).

And I just got yet another scholarship rejection letter.

Thank you everyone for your support. I still wish school was free for everyone.


— Elna    Thursday May 11, 2006    #


US has plenty of assistantships for international students, you work 60 hours a week and get (badly) paid for 20, but it is manageable.

That’s how they keep the universities working, because the professors don’t want to teach undergrads and need help to perform their research.


— Laura    Sunday May 14, 2006    #


Pay more taxes and schools and universities are free for everyone. Thats how it works in Finland anyways…


— Satu    Monday October 23, 2006    #


Think beyond the present crisis.

Consider the burning question you want to research.

Focus on that research question and there will be ways to pursue that goal.

Seeking prestige can seduce us from the important tasks in life.

I wish you well for all your best wishes.


— Lisa    Friday May 18, 2007    #


I always say where there is a will there is a way. Don’t give up. When you find your funding and graduate, success will be that much sweeter. Karin is right, all sorts of funding avenues exist today. If you can’t find academic funding, then look into companies that specialize in what you want to study. One of them is bound to have a Scholar program where they take care of the bills in exchange for a few years of “service”. I wish you the best of luck.


— Luis    Thursday October 25, 2007    #


Hope Elna is well. I bumped into this site because I too own PhD acceptance letters from the most prestigious UK schools and they dont come with funding. I wish I can one day wait out the pain. And I too wish school was free…


— Cosmo    Tuesday July 6, 2010    #


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